Submitted by Danny Smith
What’s about the biggest killer of our time? You know darn well, it’s stress. So why not take a gander at this Lazy Woman Quiz and reap the health benefits of a good laugh.
I came across this humorous line of mom-philosophy, which has a core of serious principles. The pair of women who wrote the books their website is based on, refer to themselves as Lazy Women; the label challenges the typical guilt or admonishing connotations, and replaces that drudgery with genuine appreciation for the playful resourcefulness (in a word: creativity) that laziness naturally inspires–to go rogue and loose for the good of the mind and the health of the heart. A meditative stance applied to general areas of motherhood.
Excerpt from: The Lazy Woman’s Guide to Just About Everything
The Lazy Woman’s Seven Commandments are tools to help you live the Lazy Woman’s philosophy, to help you cultivate that inner lazy attitude.
Put copies in your pocket or purse, on your fridge, or over your desk. Use them when something is making you cranky, weighing you down, or pushing your buttons. Even if you have no idea what’s bothering you, don’t get stuck trying to figure it out, go straight to letting it go, which is what these commandments, are all about. Let them move you to a more relaxed state. Often solutions appear seemingly out of nowhere when your mind is calm. Although circumstances may remain the same, you will be more at ease, which always leads to better choices.
1. THIS TOO SHALL PASS.
Whatever worries you today will be ancient history in the future. It can be big issues–like illness, relationship or financial difficulties, or small annoyances–like social disappointments, too much to do, or derailed plans. Whatever it is that’s bothering you, it’s only made more difficult by dwelling on it. Living with the awareness that, “this too shall pass,” also helps prepare you for commandment #2!
2. EXPERIENCE THE MOMENT WHILE YOU ARE LIVING IT.
This moment is your life. True happiness can only be experienced in this moment. When things are not going according to your plans, remember to turn away from your inner debates and tune in to the people and activities around you right now. And, on the flip side, remember to enjoy the good times, too!
Say: “This moment is my life,”…or…”Let me savor every moment.”
3. TAKE PLEASURE IN WHAT YOU HAVE.
Taking a moment to give thanks for what you have is always grounding. Notice the warmth of the morning sun on your face or savor the taste of hot tea. Give thanks for the good things large and small: from sweet fresh water to gas for the car, your eyesight, or the sounds of the birds outside.
Repeat: “I appreciate”…or…”I give thanks for.”
YOU ARE RESTING IN THE HANDS OF GOD (THE UNIVERSE).
There is nothing to control. Of course, you have to go about the business of your life. But, it is the belief that you actually have to control the outcome that creates a burden. Letting go of that control allows you to move through the situations in your life with greater ease.
Mantra: “There is nothing I need to control.”
5. YOU CAN EITHER BE RIGHT OR HAPPY.
When your mind is stuck in judgment, you are not happy. If you need to be right, and others disagree with you, you are only hurting yourself. There are as many different viewpoints as there are people. You can have your opinion; just don’t let them block you from accepting others.
Mantra: “I choose to be happy”…or…”I don’t need to be right.”
6. PUT YOUR ATTENTION OUTSIDE OF YOURSELF.
If you are in a deep pit, it is often difficult to redirect your mind. It might take several steps: a favorite video, audiotape, gardening, playing with your pet or reaching out to someone else. Do something that draws your attention to living in the moment–get outside of your thoughts. When you slip back into mind chatter just notice it and once again look outward.
Mantra: “I wake up to the life around me.”
7. YOU ARE A SEPARATE PERSON. (YOU ARE NOT YOUR MOTHER, HUSBAND, BOSS, LOVER)…
When you take on someone else’s pain, frustration, and problems, or get hooked into their criticism of you, there is no peace. No matter how much you love someone, their life is not yours and their opinions do not rule you. You can’t take care of everyone, or please everyone. Lazy Women think living one life is just about enough.
Mantra: “I can only live my life”…or…”I allow you to live your life.”
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